Dirty Bird Talk

I live on a 1/3 acre aviary. Forget the groundhogs who just finished off the new hostas I planted two weeks ago. Yeh, they're cute and move admirably faster than any portly rodent should, but I'm about to wage Carl Spackler-inspired war. If you don't know Carl, you should - watch this. The deer aren't improving the landscape situation either but, they're deer and, they remind me of idyllic childhood forest explorations and hobbits so, they get a pass.

 

But back to the aviary.

 

This home and those around it are surrounded by large, mature evergreen and deciduous (oooo, official word) trees that host approximately 366,187 individual birds when it's not snowing. I don't know how birds learn but they've stopped flying into the big living room picture window, which has left Dog #1 without bird carcasses to "hunt" and swallow whole the next morning (and I still let him lick me?). So they've stopped committing birdicide, but they've started TALKING. I, KNOW. What kind of everyday non-exotic parrot birds talk, you're asking? I don't have any earthly idea, but I've started to name them based on what they say. And if what they say reflects their "truth in the universe" then, there's drama and heartache and.....reality-TV-like stuff going on between the branches.

 

For example...

 

There are "screw it" birds. Everywhere. That's what they say, all day long. I finally used my superior vestibulocochlear apparatus to locate one and realized that the "screw it" bird is actually, dismayingly, the cardinal. You know...the striking red bird on all the Christmas cards. The bird experts say they're actually calling "birdie" but, maybe that's because they're standing in a field with conspicuous recording equipment and, you know, the birds are showing off. Here in western Pennsylvania suburbia, birds get REAL. I know a "screw it" when I hear one. So there's that, and then the "Murray" bird. I haven't figured out what it actually is but when the two talk together, all you hear is "Screw it, Murray!", over and over and over. I don't know who Murray is but he's been hen-pecked (ha!) all summer. I wouldn't be surprised if the birdicides restarted and we found Murray carcasses in the yard, each with tiny little bottles of Jack Daniels clutched in their little Murray claws.

 

So that's a compelling little piece of birdarama, and adding to it is the "DO it" bird. It's like the devil sitting on your shoulder while you're on the back patio, challenging you to eat that third grilled cheeseburger, or, mocking poor Murray who's sitting at the birdie bar pouring his heart out to the bird-tender (pun, so bad it's good). There's also a "pur-dee, girl-EE" bird. You can make up your own story about that one. I just look over my shoulder when it starts, to be sure the lawn boys aren't peeking over the fence.

 

 

So these birds speak in simple nouns, adjectives and verbs. It could be one giant enraged cardinal responsible for all of it, for all I know. But whatever....put it all together and you hear a story of bird love, betrayal and heartache. And as I typed that sentence a large bird smacked the big picture window, I kid you not. Honest to goodness.

 

Hmmmmm....

 

So anyway, no redemption and no renewal in this suburban bird story, yet. But we should all keep listening for the "dude, it's all good" and the, "Murray, come home! (or in other words, 'screw me, Murray!')" bird songs. Because Murray deserves another chance.

 

 

But that groundhog? "Do it, Carl. Do it."

The Truth in the Universe

So, it's been 55 weeks of non-stop work for my classmates and I, and it just ended. For the next two months, at least. I'm not sure what they (Pitt) call this intermission but, I'm calling it "it's about freakin' time". At this time last year I couldn't imagine why or how the second-year graduate students got TWO CONSECUTIVE MONTHS OFF at this point. I remember looking at them, and thinking they'd just ruined this back-to-school gig for everyone because, you know, how would anyone in a positon of academic authority and in their right mind (i.e., intact executive functions as measured by the MMSE) allow their minions to escape for two months without any strings attached? Surely someone would realize there were 47 fewer people jamming their lunches into one 5th floor refrigerator and send an urgent mass email...."Kidding!! Olly Olly oxen free! You're desperately needed back here for ghdhgdghhohgsldghsalh. Oh, and for ^&*#%, too".

But here I sit on Two Months Off Eve, with no assignments due tomorrow, and no exams to take, and no last-minute "jk" email from Pitt. And I'm actually a little teary-eyed. Not because I'm bored already but, it's just been a long 55 weeks, and there were enough moments when I thought I couldn't do it (because I'm too old, because I'm giving up too much with family and friends, because it's too hard, because I'm too hungry, because it's too Tuesday....because, blah blah....). Just like a lot of other folks in a lot of other situations, if I'd known what this would be like, I'm not sure I'd have done it. Actually, that's kind of a lie. I would have, but my attitude would have truly sucked and everyone around me would've been miserable and left. As a fabulous friend recently reminded me, sometimes cluelessness can be an unexpectedly wise partner. Then she walked right into a light pole. Wait. Sorry...that was me.

So what's that got to do with the truth in the universe? What IS IT dammit?, you ask?

Well first, I'm watching a new episode of "Through the Wormhole with Morgan Freeman" on the Science Channel as I type, which reminds me and everyone that I'm an ENORMOUS geek. I didn't need the last 55 weeks to confirm that truth. So the first truth is that my Pitt-mates and I have spent a good part of the last two months discovering the 'truth in the universe' about clinical research (sounds fancy, it's not), and how to recognize the 'truth in the universe' when we see it (yeh, it surprisingly doesn't just send you a random text, or something). And I think we got pretty good at it. Good thing, because at some point the universe is going to expect us to finish school and start contributing to the tax base again.

So, now I can identify the truth in the universe. It's a wicked mad skill. And you knew I'd apply it in a schmucky way, didn't you.

I actually just wanted to suggest that, despite any many good reasons not to start or finish something worthy, something that you really want...don't. Don't not start or finish, I mean. I fake quit this grad program so many times in my head (pissily sometimes), for lots of reasons. But the truth is I didn't, and never would, because finishing it means working the rest of my life in a field I recognize is exactly where I want to be. That's just one truth. There are obviously many others for each of us (many of mine involve savory edibles, George Clooney, and dog hair). But this particular truth, I wanted to state for the record because I want to re-read this next year, when I'm graduating, and remember how much my Pitt-mates and I will have gained because of it.

See? That could've been a hell of a lot sappier. But it wasn't.

And that's the truth.

Speed Limits

This morning I was gesturally blasted during my daily commute to Oakland by someone in a topless Jeep annoyed at the universal forces that brought us together on the same stretch of asphalt at precisely that moment. I admit, he sucked me into driving faster than my current "Save Gas" campaign manager (uh, me) would normally allow. It's not the first time, and as a driver who used to be THAT person I would empathize with THAT guy if I had been, let's say, applying deodorant while driving (which I've seen, honest-to-Pete), or doing something else that would land me on This List. But I was driving in a way that even my Irish grandpa, orMr. Debold (greatly-feared high school driving teacher), would've approved. I think. Slightly above the posted speed limit, eyes on the road, cell phone tucked away, deodorant applied long before. I was however, singing with force and gusto, which isn't on That List, so maybe what set Jeep man off was my resistance to him badgering me into cruising so far above the speed limit that my vocal cords and other body parts would squeeze shut (G forces would definitely be involved). He clearly had a perspective of speed limit mathematics and logic, that I lack now.

So, I would've re-gestured to Jeep dude but with both hands on the wheel, and my torso safely jammin' (if I do say so) to Jimi Thing....it just would've messed with a good thing. But it did occur to me there's a better way to think about speed limits - both official posted ones, and the completely arbitrary ones picked by middle-aged girls thinking they'll get better gas mileage since (un)NASCAR-like drafting on the Parkway has been deemed too dangerous for un-professional drivers like middle-aged girls. So I've been told (Mark!).

So I have a proposal, for all of us. Here we go..... ESPN.com. Or some source that gives you access to sports teams' jersey numbers (for people like my Mom, who LOVES sports and even watches the NHL on Fios, but doesn't care what Sidney Crosby's number is). Because the better way to approach speed limits is to.....

Pick the jersey number of your favorite athletes, in any sport, and drive that fast. Or slow, depending. Seriously! This was the best idea I ever had during a crappy commute to Oakland, so listen up.

Let's apply this idea using the Pittsburgh Penguins. For example, from now on my Parkway North commute will be at Kris Letang speed, plus or - rarely minus - Matty Niskanen. Parkway West, I'd love to pull a Sidney Crosby on you but....I'm gas-cheap and I'm unwilling to sacrifice my vehicle or those of the other commuting souls around me. Sorry, young bud. But I can happily and legally do Brooks Orpik down Broadhead Road. And Marce Andre....you're the man for driving through my neighborhood, unless the school speed sign is flashing. Then it's gotta be at Chris Kunitz speed or Butch the crossing guard will be PISSED.

See? Aside from the Butch factor, isn't it nice to assign your favorite athletes' jersey numbers to the roads you've got to drive every single stinkin' commuting day?

Suddenly, if we all did it, maybe topless Jeep dude would gesture with his THUMB up instead of *ahem*, because he knows I'm just hauling some Letang but and not trying to keep him from his 7:30am EST call with Beijing (because I have SO many better things to do. really). And the world would smile, and drivers would relax a little, and all of our traffic lights would turn green when we approached them. Okay. That really wouldn't happen. But it'd feel like all our lights turned green each time. And that's the point.....it's just a different perspective. I just want us all to land in our parking spots with our grooves completely intact instead of slightly partially knocked around by pressure to beat the posted speed limit by, oh, say, 38 mph.

Is that so crazy?

Even if it is, I'm sticking to it. I'd rather smile while cruising to my Pens or Steelers logic and singing my Jimi thing.

Or thang.

Normalcy and Dirt

I love most times of year but right now, I'm REALLY loving this time of year because, for the first time since June 2010, I feel normal. That is to say....I feel like a divorced middle-aged girl with a family and a home and a re-blossoming social life and the burning need for....

Dirt.

Ahem. Where is your mind? I'm talking about Mother Earth.

My Dad wasn't a farmer, but he was a Farmer. If you know what I mean. He loved digging in the soil, planting vegetables, and working in the woods surrounding the house. When I was twelve or thirteen he turned a section of our acre into a vegetable garden, and introduced us to the frustration and solid satisfaction of growing and eating our own vegetables. Somewhere in an album my Mom still has pictures of us huddled over little rows of yumminess, which hid the fact that my sisters and I apparently thought that gardening while wearing patchy flooded denim overalls was incredibly hot.

My Dad's love for all things outdoors strengthened as he aged and fought an unpredictable heart. Even in the year before his death he was determined to "work his acre" as he always did, so, he and I chopped wood and cleared brush, and stabbed ourselves while bolstering his beloved roses on their trellis. These jobs were earthy and predictable, and I think it made him feel normal, and in control his soul no matter what was going on in his body.

This Mother's Day weekend we joked how much a "hick" I am, like him. On Mother's Day my Mom and I visited Dad's grave. That sounds morbid but, I'm the first born and, he was really the one who made her a Mommy so, off she and I went. Each time I'm there I think it's perfect that he's buried on an enormous, lofty, scenic rounded Pennsylvania hill, with woods just beyond the gravesites. It feels natural, like home for him, which keeps us connected. So it's natural and right that on each visit my Mom fusses over the latest heartfelt grave marker she's brought, and we stand and chat with him, and that I weed his grave (and the Rices' next door even though Mrs. Rice is still alive. but I don't think she minds). When we leave, my nails are caked in soil and greens, and bits of dandelions. And Mom is smiling.

Today, I can't wait to get home from school to put on my 'farming' gear (NO overalls), and start working. It's May 9th and I know I'm late, and I know the stink bugs will destroy my tomatoes and peppers. Weeds will win, kids will accidently stomp on plants and dogs will deliberately poo BOATloads (which I will still hit myself with). And I don't care. Everything - even the poo in doses - smells hugely, heavenly. All smells and sights....I know trees and shrubbery and wildflowers and raptors, but I don't know a damn thing about song birds despite all the field guides in the den downstairs. So today the songs I hear from them are - and I am not making this up - "screw it screw it screw it", and "Murray Murray Murray". I don't remember "screw it/Murray" song birds hanging around my parent's house but, we just go with it. You don't mess with Mother Earth.

I love that the natural world fulfills it's God-appointed role perfectly and unapologetically, and doesn't care that I maybe slightly misinterpret what it's telling me from time to time. I've heard loons and tree frogs and migrating golden eagles, and mountaintop gusts and the Milky Way (heard it, yes) and no matter what I think I hear, it's right. Eventually I - all of us - get it.

Just like my Dad. Right, Murray?

Damn. That was Hard.

So about two years ago I decided it'd be a great idea to start over. With my career, not my gender or worse, my hair color (some people are adventurous about that, I am not one of them). So a year ago I started a graduate program in a completely new field, feeling like an absolute newbie at the age of 46. Especially since my classmates and I had a major league "1st Year Student" stamp on our foreheads. And when you're 20 years older than your classmates, that stamp? It oozes. It's a little heavenly and hellish, at the same time.

But, guess what. We all navigated through a little bit of heaven and hell over the last year and just became "2nd Year" students, stamp location TBD (uh, on the lower trap maybe?). Three other 35+ classmates and I hung with the kids, who don't seem to mind that their parents and we four old girls watched original Cosby Show episodes. My classmates are brilliant (I think) and funny and impressive. I'm not sure how often they had second, or tenth, thoughts about things. I'm old, and I say the curriculum is grueling.

This first year was damn hard, and Pitt can be frigging frustrating, and some weeks completely sucked, but it's been worth it.

Honestly, who wouldn't want to spend 8 weeks picking apart cadavers? 16 weeks deciphering a mad doctor's clinical medicine hieroglyphics? Or managing 6-foot creepy Ken doll patients (who TALK, sweet Jesus!)? And listening to Biomechanic Gus's 8am "respect the deltoid" lectures? Or quietly freaking out about extrapyramidal lesion pathology or why cranial nerve signs opposite dorsal column signs are different from ipsilateral cranial nerve and dorsal column signs or how to diagnose an ischemic vs. a hemorrhagic stroke or determine if a spinal cord injury is complete or incomplete or understand the motor association cortices and the orbitofrontal cortex and cingulate cortex and dorso-lateral prefrontal cortex and the basal ganglia....(this'll take all night....) Basically everything, about neurobehavioral science freaked me out. Which is maybe why I've loved that class more than all the others. Even though the genius little professor is six years younger than me.

But best of all we began our fieldwork this spring term working with live, cranky, spunky, determined, gracious clients, for the first time. I was assigned to an adult day care center and though it's not the population I hope to work with, learned a lot from the wonderful staff and clients. Including how many dirty jokes are associated with Easter (approximately, 3) and an Italian song about fried fish. MUCH better, than Ken dolls controlled by evil doctoral candidates who probably have video-watching parties of 1st Year Students freaking out when Ken's vitals suddenly plummet because his butt is too rock-solid to handle. Bodacious.

So what's my point? That setting yourself up for extreme uncertainty and potential failure and financial risk is good? Well sometimes, it is. It's never too late to start, or to start over, as long as you're serving your soul. And you know when you are. As much as I hate some of the Pitt process and disagree with academia's tendency to stomp on what's logical and right, that soul thing? It's still there. Which makes this short-term "holy sh*t...I've sacrificed high income and family life and social life for.....?" panic worth it.

So pay attention mates. Your orbitofrontal cortex may be trying to tell you something. And that, you don't want to mess with. I know. I'm a 2nd Year Student. (smile)

Stanley Kubrick and the Lame Duck Oven

'Tis the season for many things, but who could've guessed that lame ducks would be such a part of it? I started to think about them (the ducks) in early November. A lame duck is, at least politically, "an elected official who is approaching the end of his or her tenure, whose successor has already been elected."

Ow. That sounds so deflating.

After the November elections, experts were quacking all over CNN and FOX, and I started to think about the life cycles of lame ducks. Then I began to see them everywhere (not hallucinogenically, smartypants). When you substitute other things for the "elected" language in the definition, we're wobbling.....on the brink of being overrun by lame ducks. They're everywhere! Either because the Constitution creates them, or pop culture. Or technological, scientific, and engineering advances, or market forces, or our own requirements. Or something else entirely. Lame duck hairstyles, fashions, wives, phones, diets, boyfriends, teen idols, extraterrestial life theories, relationships, causes, policies, best-in-show breeds, last season's Dancing with the Stars winner, curfews, values, cars, economic theories, Oreo flavors, CSI Miami/New York/LA/Akron?, global warming theories, more TV entertainment, heart disease treatments, Beyblades, disease prevention theories, Brangelina and Jen.....

Good Lord. How did this thought trail start? But it did, and it continues with...

Football. In this area we've been following the interactions of two local college football powerhouse head coaches (okay, Pitt is a powerHUT), and their soon-to-be successors. Awkward. The West Virginia University coach (Bill Stewart, who I met on the best first date ever....but that's a different story!), was asked to introduce the man who will take his place next season, and pin his own WVU logo onto his replacement's lapel. Very awkward...a little like what I imagine the wife and the mistress meeting would be, but without a ring exchange. The lapel is also a potentially dangerous area. There's a crucial artery right there, for crying out loud. The new WVU head coach's name is Dana, which might be a little confusing down there in Morgantown (kidding! love ya WV!) How Mr. Stewart's WVU pin didn't end up in Dana's pupil or common carotid might just be, a minor Christmas miracle.

Occasionally, the lame ducks don't just avoid homicide charges. They make good.

The 111th Lame Duck Congress just closed, and surprised most politico talking heads by being much more productive than 46 graduate students cramming Pamela's for breakfast on the last day of finals. There wasn't a lapel-pin transfer ceremony to be found. Not surprisingly, the only Congressional lame ducker in danger of being stabbed by anything was Nancy Pelosi, but she's now got Steven Spielberg to "re-brand" she and her Party. That might lead to a John Williams soundtrack and Pelosi-Reid bobblehead dolls, but omigosh, why not?

So are you really thinking at this point...hmmm, this is all vaguely interesting and a little weird, but what was your real point, Girl? That is.....

Uh,

Sorry, oh yes. Lame duck appliances. Potentially as lethal as Bill Stewart at a lapel-pin ceremony. Two unfortunate appliances both came with this home. The first is an archeologically significant microwave oven that almost fits a Volkswagen Mini (for those folks who like to microwave funky things, just because). The next is an equally ancient yellow Sears Kenmore electric range and oven. In its defense, two of its four burners have never worked, and it cooperated when I replaced the baking element a few years ago. These two workhorses have gotten us through 3,263 meals without sickening anyone, but recently they've gone above and beyond old and unpredictable to a level of malicious intent.

It's partly my fault. I openly spoke of their upcoming "rotation" with Dan the kitchen man, while leaning on the oven. Dan is steadily helping to update a few things, including replacing the decrepit appliances. So while planning, Dan and I should have either used sign language or texted each other when talking about the sexy new, stainless replacements, because the originals....

Have revolted. A little like menacing HAL 9000 in "2001: A Space Odyssey." This was fine, because you know what happened to HAL 9000. And as a feisty soul I was ready for a little battle in a "no major commercial appliance will get the better of me" kind of way. Especially during Christmas week. So bring it, crusty avocado yellow mid-century Sears domestic apparati!

And they have.

The old microwave was first (but last now....haha). A week or two before being disconnected it started to withhold, so the only way the buttons worked was to punch them repeatedly with an electric cake beater. Which was actually kind of therapeutic (....or naughty, in some quarters). But when the buttons worked the 'wave' randomly spewed and exploded various food items, painting the inside of the oven. Either way, anything I sent into that old thing came out looking the same - like curdled and rusted UPMC Shadyside tapioca. The microwave is sitting in the garage now after being ignored by the garbage-day treasure hunters, and BFI, the last two weeks. I'm convinced it's transmitting messages to the big oven upstairs.

Because the upstairs oven is heeding. And suiting its size and sheer ugliness, it is grossly, chemically reconstructing most of what's going into it. It's Christmas week. The cookies have taken the brunt of it. So FINE. Bring It. Someone gently suggested that it might not be the oven (ahem), but I own up to my culinary goofs, most of which involved experiments with oven bags and parchment paper during my first year marriage. This is different. I know roasting and broiling and baking. And the maimed baked goods I tried to rehab this week were oven prey, pure and simple.

So upstairs oven, come January 8th........."I'm afraid, Dave." Sorry, HAL-OVEN 1962. You may be the lame duck, but I'm no shrinking violet.

'Twas the week before Christmas, and the cards just went out

I'm a wee bit behind, yikes, of that there's no doubt

The cookies aren't eaten, 'cause they still need baked

The shopping's not done...who, has put on the brakes?

It was me, and I tell you, with a wee bit of shame

Christmas lept out of nowhere, with its jingles, and flames

My spirit for Christmas is abundant, and true

This pure season, has nourished family, and special friends, my life through

So, why's this year different? So why aren't I "done"?

Done wrapping gifts, done gingerbreading, done stuffing stockings...none, done

It could be the schooling, which I've been doing, it could be money is tight

But those few reasons, don't stop the season...and then the words of a sprite

Who said, "It's okay, it's all, alright! We made a snowman instead!"

"And we played Star Wars, and swung on hammocks, when there wasn't snow for the sled."

And so it hit me, this Christmas worry, was only just in my head

Since to my loved ones, it doesn't matter, that I'm not quite ahead

So I'm humbled, and happy, to be let off the hook

And can stop planning, each ticking second, and maybe sit and read a book

But I'll still be baking, lighting, gifting...just with a little more in mind

Than being perfect-ly ready, or perfectly on time

Because these chances come often, these great prospects to do

Simple things, and pay attention, to each other year thru

I'm not soapboxing, or giving speeches, and I hope I'm not trite

I'm just relaxing, and doing some laughing....that wise sprite is, always, right

~Merry Christmas, Friends~